I really don't like to be taken for granted. Sometimes I feel as if I am being ill treated, not ill treated exactly but as if my boyfriend is taking me for granted and kind of ignoring me. If I weren't serious about him , I wouldn't have cared so much and forgotten him by now, but I really think that I'm in love. Friends, advise me what to do.

There are more than one idiot in this world.Flirt with another one.

PB - you see: you can't be the only one that cares!! he has to care too ni!!
aba if he doesn't treat you right then there is only one thing to do ni, just get over him ke!! :)
but the first step is communication try telling him this and then working it out but if it doesn't work out then get over it ke!! life is not fair!! :) :)

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on! - Robert Frost


Good luck!! :)

Its easy to advise others, but hard to follow your own words. Nonetheless, I think you should follow your instinct. If you feel it will work, and you just ought to try harder- go for it. If you feel its not going to change anything- then- its time to roll out no matter how hard it is. In other words- put yourself first before anyone else. Not hurting yourself should be your first priority.

You deserve someone better...

PB, i know what are you feeling now. I am also going through same situation. I was in love with a girl for long time. I still love her a lot. i guess, i loved her so much and i was always available for her whenever she needed, so she took me for granted i guess. I recently found out that she started cheating me, which created a big issue becasue everyone including our parents and friends knew about our relationship.

It is easy to say others such as get over with it, move on, find better one, you deserve better one. but it is not easy in reality. we dont love people thinking that if this does nt workout, we will find better, or if we find better, we will leave this person and go out with better one. if we keep on thinking that life will never end. there is always a better person that you think you find a good one now. that was my point, and i told same thing to all the people around me. i loved the girl, and it was not my fault. when i asked her if i did anhting wrong to her, she could nt answer. now, she says, lets wait soemtime and time will tell what will happen in future. i am still sticking with same girl and we do talk but not like before. i am hopeful that with my love and commitment, she wil be back on eday. and i also hope your boyfrined also will come back to you one day. i know its hard, actally hardest thing i have ever faced.

Talk to him about it.

There is nothin called love baby,give n take !!!!
not getting any find another person who can give!!i am ready;)

Love yourself first....i don't think one can really love anyone without loving thyself first.....If you do not like the personality of the person, then you won't like it in the future too....clear cut...a person's nature NEVER changes...their habit might change, but the nature doesn't. check out the thread where I discussed about love...you might find it helpful, you might not...but it doesn't hurt to try. :)

http://www.sajha.com/sajha/html/OpenThread.cfm?forum=2&ThreadID=34310

what the hell guys. if every relationship is to be forgotton and moved on, just coz things dont work and there are problems..then mine was well not be in a relationship.

if you say you're in love...then mean it too and put effort.

girl what you need to do is, make him sit his as*s down, and talk to him, you gotta let him know how you feel about the things he does, and stuff like that.

I think it's worth a talk if that guy/girl ever loved you before.

Honey,

Sorry that you're going through rough time but you see... there is no such thing as RIGHT or WRONG advice on relationship...and to expect that advice from someone online who has totally no clue about ur relationship is impossible. The only person who can advise you is your inner self. It's your problem and you have to figure the solution yourself...no one else. If you start listening to others, you'll get headache and will get more confused. Thank you very much

I agree with mansion...relationship is sometimes hard. and life is not always easy..both of you need to sit down and talk what's the main problem and try to solve......
And to IMI , there is something called love okay..you kiddo..

:) ok mom!!:)

wow ...when did i become mom of a son like my age?/???????..ding ding..

from today:)

I like what mansion wrote, and i also mean the same thing. we just can not move on everytime and find better person. we need to talk, put some effort and get things right. its not easy to forget things, it does nt hurt to try and work things out than keeping ego such as i will find better person. talk to him. i am also trying to do the same.

Imi i will kindly like to say you " go to doctor"!!!! he will help you to find your real mother if you have some problem in your brain......or you must be high enough...

Don't give up - keep fighting you never know what lies in the future. If you give up now then you have lost the fight. Keep the faith.

okay,

this is what i believe in.

love is more of giving than taking. of course feelings matter and what you feel for your partner hurts you the most. but then what's the point in forcing someone for something that does not come naturally from his/her heart. Love should outpour from heart naturally. you cannot force the issue. its not like you see someone, eyes meet and you fall in love...

if i were you, i would talk with him and see if he really loves me. if he does, then all is well. if not, then can i help it? i think no...you may want to convince him for something and he may well do it, but will he be like the one you would want him to be. will it be natural enough?

if you really love him, then go for what he feels himself the happiest in. life is long and beautiful, there are characters aplenty who will twist and tease you for a more romantic opening.

g'luck

Loote