after reading the thread called " my daughter cant do that" i m kinda curious to know that do you think it works? to stay with your bf and loose your virginity over him before marriage?
i have heard couple of true stories like .. my cousion's best fren she used to stay with her bf and she lost her viginity over him and all... one day he went to nepal to visit his parents later on after couple of months she find out he got married with diff girl i nepal.
and another fren of mine she stayed with this guy for 4 years and one day he came up to her said " i dont have feeling for you anymore"...

i guess it doesnt really works after all huh?.... i know we r in new generation and in free country , we can do wateva we want but it doesnt mean we sud forgot our culture, values... we r the one who need to keep them alive... well you guys may think that i am old fashoined but this is how my parents raised me and i m glad i m like this.;)
no hard feelings peace out ...

You are right soniaa. Afterall we shouldn't forget our rich culture and values.

Sonia ...i am with you .

Soniaa u got me thinking... Ok define culture and values for me. And also how did your parents raise u? What exactly is old fashioned as opposed to (new fashion?). I do have some opinions on this matter but ain't sure if we talking about the same thingie.

I don't think you can say "it doesnt really work". Relationships have different issues... some work while others don't... it depends on the kind of people and their intensity of commitment and compromises towards the relationship...i have seen some live-in relationships that was crumbled into pieces even after 4/5 years.. and there are several others where a guy n a grl were living together for few years and got married happily... like i said before it all depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for..
As far as the question about virginity...we can't really judge this issue... it has been an ongoing issue not only in our culture (nepal) but also in western societies...It is infact really good if a grl can stay virgin till she gets married but if she chooses not to, then i don't think the grl would be a whore...

ou are right soniaa. Afterall we shouldn't forget our rich culture and values. --finally the words from a saint...hehhehehe

what about playing blind marriage instead...our culture is rich with it...and guess who gets the trump card??

i was watching a documentary on crabs the other day...the male crabs would build tiny sand houses and the female would go inside check each one of them out..until she found something the most comforterable and then she would make love and produce tiny litttle crablets...and they went straight to plate a la caviar...heheehhehhee

You will never ever ever .....ever ever ever ....ever ever ever ever find two reationship that are exactly alike(just like you will never find two human being exactly alike). So to even ask this question is stoopid, cause its all about trial and error. You gotta have to have the guts to try things, if u don't you will never know. So to sit here and get easy answers and ponder on things would be considered caitiff behaviour. If you are here to compare and collate......good luck(its Nepali's people's favorate past time, they don't know how to mind their own fugging business, always comparing everything to the person next to you)) he he

Girls are always in trouble...I cant understand why? why do they have to be so serious in all the relationship..if its not working then they shud also have the guts to say NO ..they wait till the guy does that and complain against him...wierd. HOW ABT THE GUYS WHO ARE LEFT BY THE GIRLS??? do they complain .;NO they look for another good one;) Lesson learned.

Look at our parents. How many of our parents are divorced?, maybe a few out of millions of couples. I'm not proposing arranged marriage. Maybe we should look into their relationships? the way they worked it out? After all, a lot of our nature does seem to match at least one of our parents'. I dont define a relationship as a connection.
It's a compromise. And I think thats where we're missing. Girl goes, "You never do this, I cant do this..", guy goes the same.What about the guy saying "I'm sorry i didnt do this", or a simple "Lets get advice from our parents on this?"?????? Relationships shouldn't be between 2 people only. When a guy and a girl get together, they bring together two families, two different cultures together. It's like trying to plant a flower in some other place. Do you just break off the flower? If so it rots and dies. Bring it along with its roots and THERE! it'll last as long as its supposed to. GET MY POINT?

meera

lol u have become so americanized or sud i say mordernized that ur having trouble understanding ur own culture. yeuta kahawat cha ni na bujhney lai samjhauna sajilo huncha tara bujheyra bujh pachauney lai kahiley samjhauna sakinna.. well i guess this is the case.
old fashioned: - remain virgin until u get married
new fashioned: - " i m despret cant wait till marrige"
well i hope now u have understand it.
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dreamz

yeah i know not every relation ends up in bad way ... i know some ends up happilly but what about the one that didnt ended up happily? did it worth trying? why to take risk?
doesnt love suppose to be about feelings, emotions? why it is all about s_x? when ever we talk about love there has to be s_x. i know its person's needs but is it that important for which we even forget our culture?
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hush

even some part of culture i dont agree. i didnt say we have strickly follow our culture just try to keep alive some part of it though.

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bathroomcoffee

"its Nepali's people's favorate past time, they don't know how to mind their own fugging business, always comparing everything to the person next to you"

what about this (((So to even ask this question is stoopid))) you showed your true nepali after all huh?

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sense

hate to say that ur wrong.. i have seen couple of guyss complaining too.. yeah girls do the most because if a gurl's love is true they r emotionally attacted to the other personal when they go against its hurts their emotion so there is the only way to cool your self down by thorwig out your anger frm inside but there is some love in it too.. but guys they r so despret if one girl leaves them then it wudnt even take 1 min for them to think about getting another one " where r ur emotionsssssss" ?

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timetraveller

one word "EXACTLY"
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fewwwwwwwwh! i m doneeeeeeeeeeeee hehe
peace out ya all...

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